There are many ways to conduct a wash and go. However, with many trial and error, I learned what was beneficial for my hair and my ego! HA HA HA!

What I mean by this is that I would make sure to try every type of method. And the reason I prefer a certain type of method for my “wash and go” for my 4C hair is simply because I prefer elongation of my curls rather than definition. Hence my EGO. If you are not aware, the most common methods are the shingling method, the raking method, and the praying hands method. And if you watch my video HERE you will see which method I prefer based on my EGO. However, in the video I do show two different types of methods and what it does in my 4C Hair.

So Lets talk about the Hibiscus and Agave hair care products I used in this video by SHEDAVI! The one thing that I absolutely loved about these products was the fact that the products did NOT have coconut oil in it. As you may already know, coconut oil does cause hair to be hard about a couple of days after styling (well atleast, I know that this happens with my hair). But because this brand did not have coconut oil in it, my hair was moisturized for a lot longer than normal (Wash and Go lasted 4 days). In addition to this, SHEDAVI is also a vegan hair care line. Which means that the products have no animal traces within it and is made from wholesome organic products. So for anyone needing to make sure that their hair consumes the best healthy products, this Hair care line is for you!

My favorite product was the Leave in conditioner. It does have glycerin in it, which many may have an issue with during hot summer days (shrinkage), but I did not have this problem at all! Not only was this product moisturizing but it has such a rich thick consistency that it made me wonder why I have not had my hands on this before! To see what other products I used for my “WASH AND GO,” Please click HERE!

Does he have feelings like we do? Why does it always seem like he is punishing someone or leaving them?……. Believe it or not, this was HER thought process. Can she blame the church that she came from and left,  for the way that she began to think about God? YES!!!!…..did this past church have an influence on the way that she viewed God? YES!…But was it wise to place the blame on them? NO ……..Was it up to her to personally seek God for herself? YES……….Was she tired of going to that church and being in complete paralyzing fear only to have God remind her everyday that he simply just loved her for her? ……YES!!!!

As time progressed, she eventually did leave that church and began to work on herself. Her and some others walked away from that church and as they left and built each other up, they became the best of friends (that was the only good thing that came out of all of this, they even still talk to this very day, everyday)……But in the mist of it all, All she knew was that she loved God and that her heart dwelled in the sweet taste of worship. Worship became a place that she lived in where no one could hurt her or influence her. No one could tell her that she had to dress a certain way or look a certain way to be able to go to heaven. All she knew was that when she was in worship she was safe. But how can she fully worship a God that she was afraid of?

Leaving that church came with consequences tho. Rumors began to spread…..she was seen as a Jezebel or the woman that left the church because she was upset that she couldn’t marry the pastor. She was even called a “Peter” because she denied the “pastor” as her spiritual father. she was told that she was going to be cursed because she and her friends left and that God would take everything from her and she would become homeless. Then the final rumor was that God left her, he was no longer with me. These words hurt her so bad that she can remember crying for months, 9 months to be exact ……There would be times when she would be in front of her friends and couldn’t tell them what was going on but she would literally just have silent tears coming down her cheeks. They would ask her whats wrong and she just couldn’t speak. she was me.

I began to get angry and realized that I could no longer swim in a sea of tears and I had to find him for myself. I began to search my bible the word of god, and look for what I needed. I needed answers…..So I began with the rumor that hurt me the most: Rumor #1: “God has left her.”………..everyone knows the common verse “God will never leave you nor forsake you.” But i needed more than that. So i came across Psalms 73:23 “…yet i am always with you, you hold me by my right hand” …This verse meant the world to me because as time progressed I finally began to see God as dad  (i didn’t grow up with one, it was just me and my mom). In my prayers, instead of saying God, I would say…. “but dad”……but i began to do this without realizing that i was actually doing it for maybe 2 months. When I finally realized it, i was astounded!!!….. The fact that i was doing this was amazing because it meant that i was getting closer and closer to seeing god as less of a mean God and more as a father (Jeremiah 3:19 “Thou Shalt call me, MY FATHER, and shall not turn away from me.”)……I was one step closer to freedom from the words of others!!!!………..Anyway back to Psalms 73:23………that verse says you hold me by my right hand. It reminded me of the little girls that i use to see on the street as a kid and their dads would pick them up from school and hold their hand and I would be jealous because I always wanted a dad in my life to. Now I had one because i know that i know that he holds my right hand. So that rumor from that church was cancelled because not only was god with me but he ALSO holds my right hand.

So now you are probably asking……”ok so now that God is dad what happens now?”……………

She moved to a new state and is embraced by many of a particular church. These people become her closest friends, they love her and she learns the true meaning of mercy towards others no matter how much people may hurt her……but then things changed and she began to hear Sermons of:

”women are not to wear earrings, pants, or even walk around with their hair uncovered, women shouldn’t perm their hair, make-up is a sin,  and can and will take you to hell.”

“expect demons to attack you at night, this is normal and is part of the cup you must drink as a Christian .”

“Jesus took me to hell to show me those who didn’t make it and many were women”

“I woke up this morning with my body sore and knew that it was because God had scolded me in my sleep and i most likely deserved it, so when you guys feel sore in the morning it was God punishing you for something you did.”

“God will come to many and tell them to give up their jobs and stop going to school, there will even be some that must serve the man of God in order to enter into the destiny of their ministry”

”there are billions of demons, i was only able to get the names of a few but as you learn their names, take notes on how to defeat them and what to say exactly  to each demon because each demon requires something different.”

i began to think to myself “but since when has demons and looks become more important than learning about the love of god and his promises towards us?” But out of fear she remained in that church.

So as a result of everything she heard, she threw away all pants that she owned, cut her hair off and went natural, threw away all her earrings and make up and at this point began dressing like a nun. By this time she was so afraid of God, she no longer wanted to talk to him. Prayer was not an option anymore, why did she have to learn what exact prayer to say for each demon and their name…….she no longer wanted to pray to the one that could allow so much rules and misery. Others had warned her that this was an occult but she thought that an occult had a different meaning.

However, what she failed to understand is that its not what she wears as a Christian that determines if she makes it to heaven or not, its her actions toward others and her heart.

The only thing she knew for sure was that singing was the only thing that soothed her fearful heart……..When she encountered this fear that she had of God, she actually wandered off into a place of understanding as to why many people are atheist. Why many believed that it was impossible to be a christian, there seemed to be so many rules and no way to be able to be yourself in the mist of serving this scary god. She began to miss being herself and felt as though she was living in a box with no air. She was trapped. And She was now at the point where She wanted to leave but was told….. “if you leave the church you will be cursed.”……WHERE IS THE HOPE?!!!…… what exactly does she do here?……

Lesson/Encouragement: its not what you wear as a Christian that determines if you makes it to heaven or not, its your actions toward others and her heart.